Welcome to the world of swinging! Whether you’re a curious newbie or a seasoned swinger, understanding the lingo is key to feeling confident and having fun. Communication is everything in this lifestyle, and knowing the right terms helps build trust, respect, and comfort with others. At FantasyCoop, we believe that every experience should be safe, consensual, and exciting. That’s why we’ve created this guide—to help you navigate the lifestyle with confidence, clarity, and curiosity.
By understanding these terms, you’ll be better equipped to express your desires, set boundaries, and connect with like-minded individuals. This guide is designed to be both fun and educational, ensuring you feel empowered and informed as you explore everything the lifestyle has to offer. From playful flirting to full-swap adventures, communication and consent are at the heart of it all.
So dive in, learn the lingo, and get ready to make every moment unforgettable!
ACDC
Someone who enjoys sexual activity with both the same sex and the opposite sex. Think of it as being comfortably bisexual or just going with the flow!
Aftercare
Emotional and physical care following an intense or intimate encounter. This is where the magic of connection continues—think cozy cuddles, sweet whispers, warm showers together, or even sharing a snack in bed. Aftercare is all about recharging emotionally and physically, making sure everyone feels appreciated, cared for, and ready for the next adventure!
Air Tight
A cheeky term meaning all the “fun zones” are occupied—vagina, anus, and mouth. Full capacity, if you will!
Anal Play
Any sexual activity involving stimulation of the anus, ranging from light teasing to penetration. Communication and consent are key!
Backstage Pass (BSP)
Sharing your private gallery with someone on a dating site. It’s like VIP access to the good stuff.
Bareback
Sex without a condom. A raw experience but remember, safety first!
BBC
“Big Black Cock.” A term for well-endowed Black men. Simple and self-explanatory!
BBW
“Big Beautiful Woman.” Celebrating plus-sized, confident, and sexy women.
BDSM
A combo of Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. It covers everything from playful spanking to full-blown roleplay and beyond.
BHM
“Big Handsome Man.” For plus-sized men who own their look and charm.
Bicurious
Curious about exploring attractions or experiences with the same gender. Maybe, maybe not—but open to finding out!
Biflexible
Not fully bisexual, but open to bending the rules now and then.
Blindfold Play
Involves sensory deprivation using blindfolds to heighten other senses and build anticipation. A playful way to explore trust and control.
Bukkake
Multiple men ejaculating onto one woman’s face. Not for the faint of heart!
Bull
A confident man (often well-endowed) who joins couples for passionate fun, especially in Hotwife or cuckold scenarios.
Can Entertain
Able to host play sessions at home. Got a comfy couch, kids gone, and a stocked bar? Perfect!
Can Travel
Willing to hit the road for some sexy adventures. Distance? No problem.
Candaulism
Getting turned on by watching your partner with someone else. It’s like live-action erotica starring your partner!
Cheating
Not cool here. Anything done without a partner’s consent breaks the lifestyle code.
Clean
STD-free and hygienic. Health and cleanliness are sexy!
Clean Up
Performing oral sex on your partner after they’ve been with someone else. A badge of honor for some!
Closed Door
Playing in separate rooms without your partner watching. Privacy, please!
Closet Swinger
A swinger who keeps their lifestyle a secret. Discretion is their middle name.
Cock Blocked
When someone unintentionally (or intentionally!) stops you from sealing the deal.
Cockoldress
A woman who enjoys taking male lovers outside of her relationship, often with her male partner’s consent or participation. The female equivalent dynamic to a cuckold.
Compersion
Feeling joy and excitement watching your partner have fun with someone else. The opposite of jealousy—and a beautiful thing!
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)
A roleplay dynamic where consent is given to act out non-consensual scenarios. It’s all about trust and boundaries.
Consent
The golden rule: clear, enthusiastic permission that can be withdrawn at any time.
Cuckold
A man who enjoys watching his partner with another man or is teased about it. Sometimes he joins, and sometimes he watches.
Double Vaginal/Anal (DVP/DAP)
Double vaginal penetration or double anal penetration by two partners simultaneously. A high-intensity fantasy for many!
Drama-Free
No jealousy, no games—just good vibes and respect.
Edge Play
Sexual activities that involve pushing physical or psychological limits. This could be anything from risky roleplay to intense power dynamics, always practiced safely.
Exhibitionist
Loves being watched, whether it’s stripping, teasing, or going all the way.
Full Swap
Couples who are open to swapping partners for full sex. All in!
Hard Limit
Non-negotiable boundaries that will not be crossed during play. These are essential for safe and consensual experiences.
Hotwife
A married woman who enjoys taking lovers with her husband’s encouragement. Confidence and empowerment all rolled into one!
House Party
A private swingers’ gathering at someone’s home. Cozy, comfortable, and sexy.
Kink
Any unconventional sexual preference, desire, or practice. It ranges from mild fetishes to more extreme activities and overlaps with BDSM.
Lifestyle (LS)
A general term for the swinging and open relationship community. “We’re in the lifestyle.”
Lifestyle-Friendly
Describes venues, events, or people that are welcoming and accepting of those in the swinging or alternative relationship lifestyles.
Meet & Greet
A social event for swingers to mingle without the pressure of play. Perfect for newbies!
Monogamish
Mostly monogamous but open to a little fun on the side. Flexible love!
Moresome
Sex involving more than three people. Group fun, anyone?
Newbies
Couples or singles who are brand-new to the swinging scene. Welcome to the party!
Pegging
A woman using a strap-on dildo to penetrate a male partner anally. A popular role-reversal fantasy for couples.
Safe Word
A pre-agreed word or phrase used to immediately stop any sexual or BDSM activity, ensuring comfort and safety.
Sensory Play
Exploring different sensations on the body, such as ice, feathers, or wax, to heighten arousal.
Soft Domination
Gentle and nurturing dominance, blending control with care. Perfect for couples exploring power dynamics for the first time.
Soft Swap
Couples who enjoy flirting, kissing, and maybe oral, but full sex is off-limits.
Stag & Vixen
A confident man (Stag) who loves watching or sharing his partner (Vixen) with other men. Unlike cuckoldry, the Stag remains dominant.
Swinger
Someone who enjoys consensual sexual experiences with other consenting adults, usually with their partner’s full knowledge.
Swingers Club
A venue specifically for swingers to socialize, flirt, and sometimes play on-premises.
Switch
Someone who enjoys being both dominant and submissive, depending on the partner or situation.
Unicorn
A single, bisexual woman who joins couples for play. Rare, magical, and highly sought after!
Voyeur
Someone who loves watching others get it on. The ultimate front-row seat!
Wife Swap
Couples who switch partners for sexual play. Classic swinging!
Final Thoughts
The swinging lifestyle is all about communication, consent, and, most importantly fun! Understanding the terms makes it easier to connect, express your desires, and respect others’ boundaries. So go ahead, explore, and make every experience unforgettable!